Just go through your photos and ask yourself “Would the girl I’m trying to pick up be into this?” If the answer is no, then delete the photos. Keep some “safe” photos of you hanging out with some girls to show that girls actually like hanging out with you; Just don’t have any pictures where your doing anything too provocative with another lady – or a few other ladies.
If you only have ten Facebook friends and your wall hasn’t been updated for a year, she’ll get suspicious. Don’t post too often. Only post just enough to be active. You don’t want the girl thinking that Facebook is your life. Don’t let her see that you’re hitting on many girls on Facebook, even if you are. Be slick and keep your flirty messaging hidden, limited to chatting, or have private messages.
If you met the girl briefly but aren’t sure if she remembers you, you can send her a quick message with your request. Don’t come on too strong. Just say something like, “I had fun talking to you at Mike’s party last week. " If you see a cute girl posting on one of your friend’s walls, then try to join the conversation. See if you can make a comment that she would like and try to get her to talk to you. Be aware that Facebook has a strict no-harassment policy. If you send the girl a friend request and she doesn’t accept it, leave her alone. Don’t bombard her with aggressive messages, or she’ll report you to Facebook and could get your profile disabled for good.
See if you have any mutual friends. Check out your mutual friends or look through her photos to see whom she hangs out with. If you recognize one of the people, you can bring it up later – in a natural way. Pick up on her hobbies. Go through her pictures, wall, and Facebook groups to see if you can tell whether she likes going to the beach, playing tennis, or just going to many loud and crazy parties. Check out her links. Does she link to the songs from Justin Timberlake’s new album? Does she link to an article about Obama? See if you can notice more of her interests this way. Read her posts. Read the posts on her timeline to see if you can learn what she thinks about work or school, who her favorite basketball team is, or even what she’s doing for the holiday weekend.
Find the right time to start a longer conversation chain through comments. If she keeps writing back to you, then she must like talking to you. As your relationship grows, you can post a link on her wall to something you think she’d like. Only do this once and wait for her to reciprocate before you do it again. Don’t mention that you know what her interests are from stalking her page. Just try to mention something that you’ve realized you have in common and wait for her to respond. For example, if you know she likes the Lakers, post about them and wait for her to like your status.
Wait for her to respond. If she asks you questions, then she wants to keep the messaging thing going. Message her back. Once you do this a few times, then you can take this as a sign that she wants to take it to the next stage.
Flirt it up. Now’s the time to kick it up a notch. If she seems into you, you can say, “Hey, cutie,” or “You looked great in that pic you just posted. " Don’t be too forward, but let her know you’re into her. Talk about your common interests, or the things you know she likes. Remember all those things you learned about her from her profile? They’ll come in handy here.
Keep it casual. Don’t ask her out to a candle-lit restaurant. Ask her out for coffee or a drink. If she doesn’t know you at all outside of Facebook and you don’t have many mutual friends, she may be wary of this, so keep it in a public place and as chill as possible. You can give her your number and wait for her to give you hers. Have fun. If she agrees to meet in person, then enjoy building a relationship outside of Facebook. Moreover, if she rejects you, it’s no big deal. The beauty of Facebook is that you can pick up multiple girls at once.
