Visit possible locations or congregations where you might want to hold the baptism. Consider factors such as how the congregation’s style and beliefs fit in with yours, as well as if the size can accommodate the number of people you want to attend. Find a church at least a few months in advance so you can get to know the congregation and it can get to know you.
Make a list of any expectations and wishes you have for the baptism. Discuss these with the clergy to see if they are possible at the church. Ask any questions you may have that arise from the conversation. You may want to ask about any expectation the church has of you or the person being baptized, such as attendance in or helping with services. Ask if there are any classes, examinations, or training you require before you can be baptized. For example, the Catholic Church requires education in the Catholic faith before being baptized as an adult. [1] X Research source
Schedule the date at least four weeks in advance. Suggest several different dates to help ensure you get the church and clergy member you want for the baptism. Coordinate dates with loved ones if you absolutely want them to attend, especially godparents or sponsors.
In most cases, godparents provide spiritual support and nurturing to a child, while a sponsor can guide a child or an adult being baptized. However, in the Catholic Church, adults can also have one or two godparents. [3] X Research source Many churches will require that a godparent or sponsor be baptized and active members of a church. Consider factors such as your relationships to the godparents or sponsors and their potential commitment to guiding the person in the faith or even being there if something should happen to the parents. [4] X Research source Make several possible godparent or sponsor choices in case your first choice declines. Ask the prospective godparents or sponsors if they are willing to act in this capacity. Respect the person’s decision if she chooses to not be a godparent or sponsor.
Discuss the list with your spouse, the godparents, or anyone else taking part in the ceremony. Decide how many people you want to attend, including if it is adult-only or something for children as well. For example, if you decide to include children, you may want child supervisors or activities to keep them busy. Make sure the number of guests you want to invite can fit into the church and any party venue.
Include RSVP cards so you can get a head count on the ceremony and for any celebration you are hosting, especially if you are serving food. Inform guests of any gift policy you may have. For example, you can write “no gifts, please” on the invitation if you just want people to enjoy the ceremony and celebration. Let your guests know if children may attend and if you’ve included supervisors or activities for young guests.
You may want to choose a special christening gown or say a specific prayer. Discuss incorporating the traditions with your clergy member, who can help you plan where best to use them.
Confirm with the church that photos are allowed within it. Meet with a photographer if you want professional photos. You can also ask a friend or family member to take pictures of the day.
Have contingency plans if anything should fall through such as the church or clergy member.
Consider factors such as how many guests you’re inviting as well as the audience, especially if children are attending. The venue should be able to comfortably accommodate every person. Find a location near the church so that you and your guests, including the clergy member, can easily and quickly attend the celebration.
Decide on specific foods and if you want to have a buffet or sit-down meal. You may want to consider serving something like lamb, which many Christians associate with Jesus. If children are attending, you may want a mix of adult- and child-friendly foods. Make sure to have options for children if any are attending. Chicken fingers, burgers, and fries are good options for kids. Decide if you want to include alcohol in the day’s events or you prefer to keep it an alcohol-free party. Meet with the restaurant or venue staff, or caterers. Staff members may be able to help you find the best options for the type of celebration you want. You may want to hire a separate baker to make a special celebratory cake. Give guests different options for food such as vegetarian, meat, or fish selections.
Meet with local transportation companies and ask about buses or limousines. Local schools may also be available to hire. Ask guests to ride with one another or designate certain guests to drive others.
Ask the church if you can hire someone to look after children in their nursery. Speak with the caterer or restaurant about offering foods that children will eat. Find age appropriate games and activities for your child guests. For example, you could have a treasure hunt or board games and set them up on a table for your guests. Consider hiring a separate supervisor or babysitter for child guests. This can allow everyone to enjoy the service and celebration without worrying about children causing trouble.
Meet with a florist and discuss options. You may want to have elaborate arrangements or keep it simple. Make sure to ask the church and venue if and what type of decorations they allow. Buy decorations at party supply stores. You can often find religious-themed murals or trinkets that can help jazz up a table. Give your guests a favor by which to remember the day. Magnets or a small box of candies with the date are options you may want to consider.
Have a list of venues, caterers, bakers, or transportation services on hand in case of an emergency. Ask friends or family members to help you out if you need it.
